Do you still remember the post I did on Forgiveness? Gandhi said, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” This is one of the greatest forgiveness quotes. Indeed, it takes a strong person and a big heart to forgive. It has been a common misconception that forgiving someone means that the other person ‘win.’ However, forgiving someone actually put us in the ‘winning’ position.
Often time you have heard people saying, “How could I forgive him so easily for what he has done to me” or “I couldn’t let the matter rest so easily, I must get back to him.” The intense negative feelings associated in these statement are enough to devour you from within. Anger and hatred are very intense negative feelings that eat you slowly from within, draining away all your positive energy.
From Mitch Albom’s book, ‘The Five People You Meet in Heaven,’ he wrote, “… Holding anger is a poison. It eats you from inside. We think that hating is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us. But hatred is a curved blade. And the harm we do, we do to ourselves.” How true isn’t it? Remember the times when you are angry or hated someone? The more intense your anger or hatred, the more it hurts from within you, isn’t it?
The truth of the fact is that we need to forgive. Forgiving doesn’t mean to condone with the act of the other person. It simply releases us from the negative feelings and allow us to take control from within and in return you will receive untold peace and happiness as what Robert Muller said.
Do yourself a favor today; give yourself the gift of forgiveness and to let go of whatever negative feelings within you and fill it up with love instead. And as mentioned in the post, Forgiveness, “It is the best gift you can give to yourself and you can benefit greatly from it too.”
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it takes abig man/woman to give forgiveness. I, myself sometimes is not that strong to forgive. 🙁
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There can never be enough said about the POWER of forgiveness.
One thing so many of us forget, is also to forgive ourselves. I think part of the biggest root of low self-esteem comes from being unable, or not taking the time to figure out what we perceive that we have done wrong, and forgive ourselves. Instead we spend our lives beating ourselves up.
How can we possibly forgive others completely, when we are so unwilling to forgive ourselves.
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@ Lina, indeed, it takes a big person to forgive. I guess there will be time when we will not be strong enough to forgive immediately.
@ searchingwithin, you are right, there can never be enough said about the POWER of forgiveness. Thank you for reminding me something so important – that we need to forgive ourselves too. I couldn’t have said it better myself that we could not possibly forgive others completely, when we are so unwilling to forgive ourselves.
hehe fellow singaporean, i’m here to visit again ^^ great post once again, and just to say I LOVE MITCH ALBOM’s books! Five people you meet in heaven was nice, but Tuesdays with Morrie was really great and touching 😀 how come u’re not attached but u can talk about such deep stuff about love and everything? ^^
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@ Shu Fen, I need to pick up Tuesday with Morrie for a read. Probably the reason why I can talk about stuff like love, although I’m not attached, is through the experience of others which I gain from reading. And maybe you know that I love love quotations and from these collection of love quotations, I have gained many new insights and perspectives too. 🙂
What a wonderful reminder to me. I sometimes forget just how much the word forgive means. It is so easy to brush things under the rug without thinking about it. I haven’t really forgiven at that point. I guess I need to check under my “rugs” and pull out the dirt and forgive.
Really a nice post BK. I hope life is finding both you and your family well.
@ Tammy, thank you. I hope that you and your family are all doing well too. 🙂
I know alot of people find it hard to forgive, and alot of people also don’t ask for forgiveness. If we only let go of the negative feelings in our hearts, and learn to forgive…. and learn to forget….
Thank you so much for the warm birthday greetings. You’re not late, my birthday falls on the 24th. 🙂
Happy blogging! Continue to write inspiring posts.
Debbie
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I agree with Gandhi.
@ Debbie, you are to most welcome. Indeed it is a learning experience to forgive and forget. With practice, we will get better. 🙂
@ Mei Teng, Gandhi is a very wise man. I love his peaceful non-violent nature.
as for me, letting go of my grievances wasn’t easy but the pent up frustration was hurting me more than the aggrieved party. in the end, when i let it go and forgave, I felt like the winner instead.
@ Beng, the pent up frustration can definitely be more hurting than letting go of the grievances. Not to mention that the bottom up feelings can be bad for our healths too.
For me, its really tough to forget and forgive.
@ Nirmala, it not only takes a strong person with big heart to forgive and to forget, it also takes practice too. 🙂
Hi BK,
Thanks for this post. Something eating me for the past few weeks and your post serves as a reminder not to hold with this feeling. It’s easy to said and done. Actually it’s easy to forgive others if we have forgiven ourselves. But first we do need to make a baby steps to make it happen. I’m going to start tonight. Hahaha
Have a brilliant day! Always take care…
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@ Sam, yeah, it is easier said than done. Practice makes better. I hope that everything will work out for you soon. Have a wonderful day! 🙂
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“To get the full value of joy you must have someone to divide it with.” – Mark Twain
-> on yr blog…this is such a cool quote and just as relevant today as it was in mark Twain’s time.
@ Beng, yeah! That is the reason why I love quotations and not just love quotations. A lot of these quotations are still so applicable today as in yesterday.
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Agree with you,BK.
I forget to think over this kind of principles in these busy days, Thanks so much for your blog, You remind me much, 🙂
@ PrettyFireFly, thank you, it is truly my honor. Pardon me that right now I do not set up link exchange over at this blog at the moment. I would definitely add on your blog when I set up my blog roll. Thank you also for the award. I would not be able to accept that because I cannot be certified as a Queen; I am a man. Nevertheless, thanks a lot for the award. 🙂
@ iWalk, you are most welcome. We do get caught up with daily life and it would be good if we can be each other reminder at time. 🙂
This is a very good reminder. To some of us it is very hard to forgive, but once you’ve learned to do it, every thing will be much easier. Also, it is so hard to move on with hatred and a heavy heart.
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@ Maria, I agree with you that it is so hard to move on with hatred and a heavy heart; they will eat one slowly from within and drain ones energy.
nice post 🙂 indeed, we benefit much when we learn to forgive and forget.
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@ Janeth, indeed, we are benefiting much from learning to forgive and forget. 🙂
@ Rose, powerful medicine indeed. 🙂
Forgiveness = Powerful medicine. 🙂
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This post is an excellent reminder of how to live in the likeness of our Creator. Forgiveness is probably more important than love.
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@ Mamaflo, you can’t be more right. That is the reason why Robert Muller said, “To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love…” and Gandhi had likewise said, “Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
Forgiveness is for the big hearts. Hatred and anger is for the wicked hearts. We don’t get angry easily because they harm everyone around. But we share tender loving care, and spread love to the air. And we do it more often each day and make this world a better place to stay.
@ yeokeehui, forgiveness is definitely for the big hearts and I believe that not all people hold hatred and anger because they have wicked hearts. Sometimes it is just too hard for them to let go and they did not realise that letting go actually free them from the negative energy that is tying them down. Once they realise that holding hatred and anger eat them from within, they would be ready to let go.
Hi BK,
I know this a crude way of putting it but my husband helped me learn this lesson about forgiveness with this saying,”Kill em’ with kindness.”
Which basically means that if let go and move on then it is you that are the victor of any situation.
Great message and a great share. Wow now I owe you a really big apology. Please don;t laugh when I tell you this.
You have left many comments at my site before and until just a few minutes ago I always thought someone else was BK.
Oh no I even think I have called her by that name. I am so sorry!!
Please just remember that I am blond okay?
Happy weekend!!
Hugs,
~Jackie:-)
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@ Jackie, LOL! Sorry I am trying hard not to laugh. It’s alright. The other person must be feeling confused; why did you call her BK? 😉
Although a crude way to put it, it is still wisdom from your husband. What’s a better way to repay someone who hurts us? Pay them with kindness. I learn something new from your husband today. 🙂
I like this blog. I might forgive the one who hurt me but it doesn’t mean the pain is already gone. I’m just getting used to it. Maybe its really takes time to full forgive the one who hurt us.
@ Marie, a higher level of forgive is to forget and it takes practice; it is never easy. But when we forgive, we do not condone what the person has done.
That’s so true. Holding onto anger is a poison. It’s so difficult to recognize sometimes. And at times, I even enjoy feeling angry. It feels good to hold a grudge sometimes, which is terrible.
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@ Ben, it can be a challenge to forgive and forget at time and that is probably why Gandhi said it is the attribute of the strong.