Choosing To Be Positive

How has your day been? How is it going to be? If we had the choice, we’d no doubt want each day to be phenomenal – exciting, enriching, meaningful, joyful and pleasurable. But are you exercising that choice? Do you intentionally and consciously choose your attitude each day?

Most of us tend to allow external circumstances or other people to choose your attitude for us. As in, whether our day is a good one or not is dictated by whether we get up on time, whether the kids give us any trouble, whether the traffic is agreeable, whether the boss is in a good mood, whether another big, thankless task is dumped on us, whether our spouse or partner greets us with a smile.

When you choose to live this way, you are allowing external circumstances to control your mood and disposition. This is fine as long as everything runs smoothly in your life. But that doesn’t happen often, does it? Life is hardly predictable – accidents happen, machines break down, kids have their tantrums, workloads become seemingly unmanageable. And when you finally get home in anticipation of a tender hug and a sympathetic ear, you find instead another frustrated and angry person who can’t wait to dump all the day’s tribulations onto your already tired soul.

What happens then? What happens when you have a lousy day?

You see, the problem with not choosing a positive attitude everyday is that we run the risk of getting a negative one imposed on us at the whim of other people and situations. Our mood is then at the mercy of the volatile. But although we can’t dictate the weather, we certainly can choose how we react to it.

So what if we claim our right to consciously choose our attitude?

Well, we’d invite more joy into our lives. We often overestimate the influence the outside world has on our mood – like if we encounter a surly cashier at the cafe, we feel offended and ourselves become sullen and rude, as if to pay forward this unbearable debt of bad manners. When really, the moment’s tension can be neutralised instantly if we choose not to be affected by someone else’s thoughtlessness.

By choosing a positive attitude each day, we attract more positive experiences into our lives. The quality of each experience often determines the quality of the next experience – I’m sure you’ve been in situations where your plans get thrown off completely because something went wrong. But when things go awry, you can also choose to move on without a scratch, thus affecting a better outcome or future experience.