We Can’t Reach Out to Everyone

I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do.

Helen Keller

Just about a week ago, I was discussing with my co-workers turned friends that I just realised – again – that as much as we want to reach out and help everyone, we simply could not reach out and help all. Most people would have the idea that I am talking about people who are not willing to be helped. I agree to a certain extent. However, over here, I am referring to someone who we wanted to reach out and to help and we just do not have the expertise or ability yet.

How did I come to realise it? It was all a magical journey if we would so much as to listen to our inner voice and the Universe.

Just a few weeks ago I was in contact with a potential new student to coach. During the evaluation session with the boy and his parent, I realised the boy may be dyslexic; I came to the conclusion from what the parent described to me and from my personal observation. Although I am not an expert in dyslexia, I was able to read about it from books and from people’s personal dyslexic experience before. Besides that, I had a chance to discuss about it with a parent who has two dyslexic children. And because of her own children, she has started a freelance service to help other dyslexic children.

The challenge was how to put forward what I observed and my thoughts to the parent; especially when not all parents will accept that their children are different. Thus I began cautiously by explaining my observation of their boy and giving them the examples of famous people (Thomas Edison, Albert Einstein, Leonardo da Vinci, Whoopi Goldberg, Tommy Hilfiger, John Lennon, Richard Branson, Agatha Christie just to name a few) who are dyslexic.

I also stressed that dyslexia has nothing to do intelligent; it is just a form of learning disability and if we are able to find the key to open up the learning in each of the child, he/she will have great potential. Apparently, they have come across that and they just thought their boy is a little slow in his learning. I wanted to link them up to the parent who are doing freelance service to help other dyslexic children but they weren’t receptive about it.

In the end I took up the challenge to give it a go. My co-worker and I went through one session with the boy and came out totally clueless what we could do to help; it was simply not within our ability and expertise. True to my personal observation, he is a very smart boy. Besides that, he can be very focus. I felt that it would not be right for us to coach him; what he really needs is someone with the expertise to find the right key to help him to learn.

My sincere apology to the parent who was willing to give us a shot. Fortunately, they were very understanding.

Through that one incident, it just dawned upon me that as much as we want to reach out to everyone and to help everyone, there will be time when we have to admit that we do not have the ability yet. However, as Helen Keller said, “… because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do.” We must continue to do what we can to reach out to people who we have the ability to help. With that say, there will also be time when we have to take up new challenge to stretch our abilities.

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When You Thought I Wasn’t Looking

Read this poem by Mary Rita Schilke Korzan this morning and thought that I would like to share this beautiful poem with you. From Barnes and Noble, it was mentioned that Mary wrote the poem to her mother 24 years ago, thanking her for all she had done as a mother, friend, and role model. She gave the poem to her mother and, a few months later, offered it as a tribute when Mary and her husband were married.

So many wedding guests asked for a copy that Mary included one in her thank-you notes and it just spread from there until it was listed as “Author Unknown,” in A Fourth Course of Chicken Soup for the Soul, which her husband and children gave her as a Mother’s Day gift. This is a reminder to us that no deed, which is done with love and out of love, is ever too small; it surely make a different in another’s life.

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When You Thought I Wasn’t Looking

When you thought I wasn’t looking
You hung my first painting on the refrigerator
And I wanted to paint another.

When you thought I wasn’t looking
You fed a stray cat
And I thought it was good to be kind to animals.

When you thought I wasn’t looking
You baked a birthday cake just for me
And I knew that little things were special things.

When you thought I wasn’t looking
You said a prayer
And I believed there was a God that I could always talk to.

When you thought I wasn’t looking
You kissed me good-night
And I felt loved.

When you thought I wasn’t looking
I saw tears come from your eyes
And I learned that sometimes things hurt—
But that it’s alright to cry.

When you thought I wasn’t looking
You smiled
And it made me want to look that pretty too.

When you thought I wasn’t looking
You cared
And I wanted to be everything I could be.

When you thought I wasn’t looking—
I looked . . .
And wanted to say thanks
For all those things you did
When you thought I wasn’t looking.

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Love Transcends the Senses


I watched this before but it never really captured me. A friend of mine shared this on her Facebook a while ago and it kind of spoke to me. And as the maker of this short film, The Jubilee Project, wrote, “There are moments in life when we feel a connection so deep words can hardly describe it.

And love, it, transcends the senses. We simply love another just because we love; reason to love is seeking for approval and security. We do not need anyone’s approval to love another. We do not need any reason to love, we just love and we accept the person as who he/she really is.

Perhaps love is the process of my leading you gently back to yourself. Not whom I want you to be, but to who you are.” – Antoine de Saint – Exupéry

The Important Things in Life


A Reminder of the Important Things in Life

Music by Pasquale CatalanoCuore Di Sabbia” and Images by Monica Sheehan

As from the video:

1. Be Happy – People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be. – Abraham Lincoln

2. Show up

3. Follow your heart – There are many things in life that will catch your eye, but only a few will catch your heart … pursue those. – Author Unknown

4. Find a new perspective

5. Have a sense of wonder – There are two ways to live your life – one is as though nothing is a miracle, the other is as though everything is a miracle. – Albert Einstein

6. Find people you loveand I would say loving all the people around us regardless of whether we know them in person or not.

7. Set Goals – Life can be pulled by goals just as surely as it can be pushed by drives. – Viktor E. Frankl

8. Help others – If you can, help others; if you cannot do that, at least do not harm them. – Dalai Lama

9. Dance – Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass … It’s about learning to dance in the rain. – Vivian Greene

10. Pamper yourself …

11. Face your fears … – Do the thing we fear, and death of fear is certain. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

12. Go to a museum

13. Exercise – It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver. – Mahatma Gandhi. Besides exercising, we do have to focus on eating healthy too; most health issues are directly related to the food we are putting in our mouths.

14. Limit Television

15. Get in touch with Nature

16. Lighten up

17. Get a good night’s sleep

18. Read books

19. Buy yourself flowers

20. Don’t compare yourself with othersEach of us is unique and special in our own way; do not seek to be like others and do not afraid to be different.

21. Don’t beat yourself upLoving others start from first learning to love ourselves.

22. Be open to new ideas

23. Don’t focus on negative thought

24. … Focus on creating what you desire

25. Make time just to have fun

26. Keep the romance in your life

27. Make a Gratitude list

28. Love Your Mother Earth

29. Want what you have – Success is getting what you want; happiness is wanting what you get. – Ingrid Bergman

30. Be true to yourself

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Rising to the Occasion

Vanda Miss Joaquim, National Flower of SingaporeOn April 15, 1981, Vanda Miss Joaquim was chosen as Singapore’s national flower from among 40 other contenders, including some 30 orchids. It was selected particularly because of its hardy and resilient qualities and its ability to bloom throughout the year – these qualities remind me of the Japanese.

The Japanese are not only showing their hardiness and resilience in good times, they are also showing these exceptional characteristics in the worst of times in one of the largest earthquakes ever recorded which also spawned a deadly tsunami that slammed into the small island nation, leaving a huge swath of devastation in its wake. They have also shown their abilities to bloom beautifully and gracefully just like the Vanda Miss Joaquim. The recent calamity did not put the affected areas into a state of chaos and in fact the Japanese has remained calm in handling and facing the situation; they have given all of us a very valuable lesson.

It can be challenging enough for some to maintain their composures during good times, not to mention during times like what the Japanese are going through now. They have not only continue to display an air of gracefully in their daily lives but have also extended their hands to others who are affected.

Many have truly risen to the occasion as a report by Associated Press. I am truly touched to read all the stories of people going beyond their own sufferings to make life better for others.

A lesson on “initiative” from Students in Karakuwa, who are bringing buckets of water from the school swimming pool to give survivors the dignity of a proper flush. Another lesson on unconditional sharing: “For a long time, in the countryside, even if you didn’t have enough for yourself, you shared with others,” said Noriko Sasaki, 63.

In another article by Hiroko Yoda in cnngo.com, she wrote:

Everywhere I go, I see people helping and encouraging each other, even total strangers. The outpouring of support and sympathy, especially in a metropolis filled with people who normally keep to themselves, has been astounding.

At my local supermarkets, prices have been lowered to help customers, who politely line up and pay without panic or complaint.

Hiroko also reported that in a broadcast interview with students by NHK, one of the students said, “We want to tell everyone living in shelters like us to stay strong,” and another said, “We’ll rebuild Japan together.” These are words from junior high schoolers, many of whom have yet to make contact with their families.

Lastly in the report by Associated Press, the Japanese has taught me the most valuable lesson on Gratitude:

At the school in Karakuwa, 43-year-old Emi Yoshida reads a book, still wearing the same clothes she had on the day the tsunami roared into town. She has not showered in a week and longs for a bed. Still, she is grateful for the comfort the community has provided her and her two sons.

Many, including myself at time, are being caught in the day to day activities of pursuing what we want in our lives and we have forgotten about what we already have; a gentle reminder to myself to be grateful for all the things I have or may have taken for granted … including the air that I am breathing in while typing this. Gratitude!

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Photo from wellgrowhorti.com

Reaching out to Japan Quake Victims

Mt. Fuji by James Farmer

Pardon me that this post came much later; it was easy to be caught up in the news, watching what was happening in Japan and finding out if friends and their families were safe after the quake. Fortunately, I was able to contact my friends and unfortunately, I couldn’t say the same for others who are still doing their best to contact their friends and families. My heart goes out to all of you.

As I reflected in the quietness of my room, many images flashed through my minds; images of babies, smiling children, elderlies and faces … faces whom I do not know and yet they seem to be just like the faces of my friends.

It dawned upon me that these images of babies, they could have been the images of our babies. These images of smiling children could have been my smiling niece and nephews, giggling as they tried to climb up to the lap of their uncle. These images of elderlies could have been our grandparents and parents. Last but not least, these images of familiar faces could have been our best friends, friends and working associates. It could simply be the images of people whom we hold dearly and closely in our heart … it could be images of you and I.

In that moment of quiet reflection, I realised there is no Singaporean, American, British, Indian, Chinese or Japanese etc; there is only human being of one united race on Planet Earth.

Symphony of Love is making a special request from you to continue to send prayer and positive wishes of Loving Kindness and compassionate to our friends in Japan and for those of you who are able to help out financially, below are some ways:

1. Singaporeans may make a cash, cheque or SMS donation to the Singapore Red Cross for victims of this disaster.

For walk-in donations, the Singapore Red Cross is open from 9.30am to 9pm from Mondays to Fridays, and from 9.30am to 6pm on Saturdays, Sundays and public holidays.

For cheque donations, cheques should be made payable to the “Singapore Red Cross Society”.

Donors may also donate via their mobile phones to 75772. For every SMS, S$50 will be donated to the “Japan Disaster” fund.

2. For American, you can make direct donation to American Red Cross.

Resources related to the crisis in Japan and ways to help, from Google.

From Yahoo

Let us continue to send positive wishes of Loving Kindness and Compassion to our Japanese friends. As the saying goes, “Strangers are friends we have yet to meet.

You Can Shine too

An inspiring video which touches my heart every time I watch it. And yet it never failed to put a smile on my face at the end of the video. For those of you who haven’t watched it before. Hope you’ll be inspired by it and yet at the same time have a good laugh watching it. Something which caught my attention in the video between the man and the girl.

The girl was crying and asking the man, “Why am I different from others?” And the man replied, “Whydo you have to be like others.” The video is about a deaf girl learning to play the violin; impossible it may seem. However, as the man said in the video, music is a visible things, close your eyes. You will see.

Believe in ourselves and then we have to take massive action! You can Shine too!